Monday, December 28, 2009

7 Tips to Prepare for Success and Satisfaction

“If you don’t prepare, you won’t succeed.” Everybody Hates Chris 

Being a success takes hard work, but you can do it!

These tips are for people who value self improvement and are committed to growth and development. So...for all of you go-getters who are on your next new venture, apply these tips and it will make the journey a little less rocky.

1. Do your research.

Whatever it is that you want to do or be, you must understand thoroughly. It is worth the effort to take the time to learn and perfect your craft.

2. Set up your support system.

It is virtually impossible to be successful without other people. Let’s face it. We need people. It’s important to network with others that have similar passions and develop a group of people who will support you. Who knows, you may even become a part of their support system too?

3. Develop a plan.

How are you going to go somewhere when you don’t know where you’re going? Whether informal or formal, you must envision your future. You must see it when no one else does. It may be helpful to make a collage of places you want to go, people you want to meet, and symbols of the things that you want in life.

4. Be aware of the importance of balance.

Success is minimal compared to satisfaction. The person who is happy with little is more admirable than the person who is miserable with a lot. You cannot focus all of your energy on success because you won’t have room for other important areas of your life. Make sure you have time for all of the things that are important to you. If you are unsure of what’s important to you, imagine the images that would run through your mind before you die. For me that would be my husband, children, extended family, and people that I want to help.

5. Put forth a genuine effort.

Many times during the preparation faze, people are too relaxed. You shouldn’t be so uptight that you become stressed, but you must take preparation for your future seriously. Preparation will lead you to your destiny, so work hard.

6. Don’t procrastinate.

People are waiting on what you have to offer, so you must not blow it off. Just because you are not where you want to be does not mean that you are not on a schedule. You never know when the golden opportunity will present itself. Therefore, you must be on schedule.

7. Clarify what you want.

I’ve mentioned this principle before. You must know what you want. If you know what you want, it is bound to occur. It’s just a matter of time. Remember that you cannot complain about what you don’t have when you don’t know what you want. Sometimes you have an idea of what you want, but you should be able to specifically say what it is that you want from life. For instance, let’s say you want a house. What does the house look like? How much does it cost? Where is it located? Even if you don’t know how it could happen, don’t be afraid to dream. I have personal testimonies that this principle works. Know what you want!

I guess watching TV is useful after all. I got all of this inspiration from watching Everybody Hates Chris! In conclusion, success comes from opportunity and preparation.” (Everybody Hates Chris) Your opportunity is waiting for you, but you must be ready for it. I would hate for you to miss your time to shine because you weren’t prepared. Prepare yourself to be the best!

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Saturday, December 26, 2009

7 Ways to Stay Focused

The end of the year is drawing near. If you're like me, you have high expectations for the new year. You are evaluating your goals and setting new ones. Some of you may even have an action plan for 2010. If you don't have a plan, get one. If you don't have motivation, get motivated. Some of you may say if I could, I would. However, you are the only one who can motivate you. All someone on the outside does for you is lead you to your own internal motivation. You have got to believe in yourself more than anyone does. So the more that you believe in yourself, the further you will be able to go. So as we go into the year of 2010, lets think about how we are going to finish what we've started. Let's think about how we are going to do things differently than we have before. 

The only way that you are going to be able to move further than you have before is if you stay focused. Let's look at some ways that you can stay focused so that you can not only finish but you will perfect what you have started.

1. Believe in yourself.
The number one way to help you stay focused is knowing that regardless of your circumstances, you will make it. You cannot let anyone else tell you what you should be doing and how you should do it. When you find out what your purpose is, don't let anyone distract you by giving you unwanted advice.

2. Be patient with yourself and your circumstances.
If you've been listening to what I have been saying throughout my blogs, you know that I believe in hard work and perseverance. Therefore, you must take your time and know and believe that things will change in due time. It may be tomorrow, the next day, or the next year. You owe it to yourself to keep trying because you never know when your time will come.

3. Evaluate your agenda.
As you think about your goals, you must always think about your hidden agenda. Why do you want to do what you want to do? If you know why you want to do it, then you will not allow distractions get the best of you.

4. Maintain your support system.
Without a support system, you will not be able to get far in life. Believe it or not, we all need each other. If you have people around you that know what your goals are, they will hold you accountable. The very fact that you know that they know should encourage you to do more with yourself. People are expecting more from you, and it's time that you give them what they are asking for.

5. Maintain balance.
Without the proper balance, you will eventually fall on your face. You must always be aware of what's important in life. If that means that you need to make a list of the seven most important things in your life do it. Doing this will help you to allot the proper amount of time to each area.

6. Beat discouragement before it beats you.
Discouragement will come. You will ask yourself, "Why am I doing this anyway?" You'll say, "What's the point of all of this?" Okay, let's hit discouragement in the mouth before it gets to you. Tell discouragement that you have something to offer the world. Tell discouragement when he comes that the point is that you can't leave this planet without doing your part.

7. Keep it moving.
With time, movement develops a momentum. If you are already moving, you don't want to stop because it will take you longer to get your momentum back up again. Consistent progress is encouraging and helps you stay focused. 

So as we go into the year of 2010, lets stay focused. If you want to hear more about one of the ways to stay focused, leave a comment and I will make a mental note. Thanks for reading.

Monday, December 21, 2009

More Is Not Better

The end of the year is near. Some people are excited  about 2010 and others are a little depressed. Many of us that are go-getters get discouraged when we don't reach our goals when we think we will. We try the best that we can and we expect to get results. If you're like me, you expect to get results fast. However, lasting success does not come over night.

If you don't believe me, research it. Find out about the history of the person you admire most. For instance, my favorite English professor told me that he was painting houses when he graduated undergraduate school. I was shocked. I just assumed that he went the traditional route and he was always on a clear path of success. My point is don't assume that people you admire had an overnight success. Success takes hard work.

Furthermore, lasting successs takes work and patience. You must be patient with yourself to achieve the kind of success that you want. You want to be able to enjoy your life when you become more successful. If you suddenly become an over night success, will you be able to handle it?

It's like the saying, "More money, more problems." With great gain, comes a greater responsibility. Remember that on your way up to the top. If you change your perspective, you will begin to value your baby steps. You will begin to appreciate the time that you are spending preparing for your magnificent future.

So during this holiday season, treasure where you have been in 2009. Many of us have had our share of struggles this year, but remember that each mistake has contributed to your growth. As long as you are doing your best, you are right on schedule. You might not know how all of the pieces fit together just yet, but eventually you will have a beautiful picture of your destiny.    

Friday, December 18, 2009

3 Tips to Find Balance

When you begin to make progress toward your goals, the excitement runs all through your body. You can't stop thinking. You know that your moment has arrived and it is just a matter of time before you get to your destination. How exciting!

This is all good but this experience requires balance. It's already been established that your destiny is near and it's only a matter of time. Therefore, there is no need to rush anything. Just relax and take it easy.

If you are having trouble doing that, note these tips.

1. Get organized.
Create a schedule and stick to it. There is no need of planning if you don't follow through with the plan.

2. Prioritize
If necessary, ask yourself several times a day. How important is it that I do ____________ today?

3. Set Limits
Even though being successful is exciting, you have to know when to stop. When you are working on a project remember to stick to your schedule. If you have to ask yourself, "Will it change anything if I finish this today?" Usually the answer is no.

I have been personally working through this, so leave a comment if you would like me to elaborate on these tips. We can work through this together.

A part of being satisfied is maintaining balance. Remember our goal is Success and Satisfaction, not one without the other. Without balance, you will never be satisfied.

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Are You Ready for Change?

You have been dreaming big dreams and expanding your horizons. You have been encouraged and you want more for your life. You have been researching and putting the pieces together, and now you're amazed at how big your dream is. Wow...could this really be?

Yes, it's true. There is more inside of you, and it is waiting to come out. Do you believe it? Do you really think you could be that person in your dreams? Could it be that you are transforming right before your very own eyes? Look in the mirror, you might look a little different. When you change on the inside, you change on the outside. When you change the way you think, you change the way you look. Try it and see.

For instance, I developed self confidence this year. I have learned to accept who I am and love it! As a result, people that I haven't seen for a while give me compliments saying things like, "You look like a grown woman now." People could see the maturity in the way that I carry myself. I was puzzled at first because I haven't dramatically changed physically. But the moral to the story is that what's inside of you illuminates on the outside of you.

I know you want to walk in your destiny. I know you want more for yourself. I know you want to be better than who you are today. The question is, "Are you ready for change?" Are you ready to stop being the person that puts off until tomorrow what you could do today? Are you ready to stop saying what you are going to do, and do what you need to do? Are you ready to drop those old habits and develop new ones? 

It's all up to you. Even though I love coaching people, I don't think that a coach can change you. Your biggest influence is you. You are the one who will determine what you will and will not do. You will decide whether you will reach your goal or not. You will decide if you are successful or not.

After it's all said and half way done, are you ready for change? Finish what you started and make a vow to yourself that you will change at this very moment.

Leave a comment if you would like to make a public vow.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

3 Good Reasons to Know What You Want

Many times we think we know what we want but when the opportunity presents itself we freeze up. If you want to be successful, you have to know what success means to you. Instead of complaining, do something about it. Meditate on these reasons to know what you want, and I guarantee you that what you want will come to you. So get ready for it.

1. You can't measure your success without a goal.
You must always set goals in order to track your progress. How can you know how far you've come if you don't know where you started from?

2. You can't reach out for help, if you don't know what you need help with.
Living a productive life that offers the world something requires a team. You will not be able to reach out to people to help you be a better person if you don't know who you want to become.

3. You can't be dissatisfied with your life, if you never believed in what you can become.
Don't be one of those people who are disappointed in themselves for no apparent reasons. They know they could do more, but if you ask them exactly what they couldn't tell you. Believe in yourself first before you expect others to follow suit.

If you want to hear more reasons to know what you want, leave a comment. I can tell you some stories about how this concept has changed my life. Let me know if you want more details.

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Learn to Relax

It's a shame not to know how to relax. Do you work too hard? I know you are driven, but do you know how to kick back and take a moment to relax?With everything going on in your life, are you able to take a moment to not think about anything? Just imagine yourself sitting beside flowing water. What is on your mind? Are you still trying to solve problems? It's okay to just be sometimes. You don't have to spend every waking moment thinking. Take a moment to relax.
Let's face it, you would not want to die working.You want to spend the last moments of your life enjoying yourself which means doing whatever is important to you. In other words, all of those things that you feel like you have to do but don't want to do can be put on a shelf sometimes. This is not to say that you should not be responsible. However, you can be so concerned about being responsible that you forget to have fun.

You don't want to waste your last breath sighing because you're sooo tired.

As you strive to reach perfection, remember to take a moment to relax. As you climb the ladder of success remember to breathe once in a while. The world will not stop spinning because you took a moment for yourself.

During this holiday season, remember that satisfaction is more important than reaching the highest heights. Remember that you are already a success, and all you are doing is working toward becoming more successful. The moment that you decide to become successful, you are successful. Stop being so hard on yourself. Stop worrying about how you could've have done things differently and enjoy your life. When it's all said and done, life is too short.

When are you are going to learn to relax?
(If you would like to hear more about learning to relax, leave comment.)

Saturday, December 5, 2009

Let it Happen

How is it that after you've done everything that there is to do, you still think you should do more? You are trying the best that you can, but you still feel like you should try harder. You have done everything there is that you know to do, but you're still looking for more solutions. You are a go-getter and you aim for the highest heights.

Sometimes working too hard is the result of inpatience. I am naturally inpatient with myself, so I have had to recognize it when I see it. When you work too hard, you get nowhere fast. You will look around and see that you are no further than if you had worked a little less. If you find yourself working too hard, ask yourself why. Are you doing it because you have the time? Are you taking away time from family to work on something that could wait? Are you able to stop working after a reasonable amount of time?

Do you realize that it doesn't matter how much more you do because you are already a success? Change your perspective. There is more in you, but that doesn't mean that you have to do more. You have to pace yourself to make sure you finish the race. Don't wear yourself thin by trying to make something happen. Remember to save some of you for the people that love you and need you.

Don't try to make it happen, let it happen. Success is the inevitable, so just believe it. If you really believe that you will reach your destination, then you won't have to try so hard. You will get there in due time and at the right season.

Everyone will have their time to shine. All you have to do is wait for your moment. If you keep yourself overwhelmingly busy, you might miss your opportunity. You'll be so busy that you won't look up and see that the moment that you've been waiting for is right in front of you. Just let it happen.